Ms30 asked:
After a lot of study we bought the We-Vibe. During sex, the half that’s inside me doesn’t stay in the middle and tends to move off centre. Also the centre of the We-Vibe, where it curves can hurt when it’s pushed against me.
Is this common for the We-Vibe and do you have any suggestions about how to make it more comfortable while using this and having sex with my husband?
Thanks so much.
Advice Grrl answered:
I am sorry to hear that, despite doing your research, the We-Vibe is not working well for you. There may be some things that can help with this.
Lubricant:
You’ve not mentioned whether you’re using lubricant. Adding some water-based lube should help with the curving centre of the We-Vibe, allowing it to rest more comfortably against your genitals.
Internal placement:
As for moving off-centre internally, there are a few reasons that this may be occurring. One possible reason could be that the shaft of the penis is relatively narrow (or the shape of your vagina is comparatively wide), leaving room vaginally for the penis to slip up next to the We-Vibe. Everybody’s shape is unique, and often this means that people don’t mesh like puzzle pieces. If this if the case, it may mean that there’s no longer the pressure of the penis shaft against the underside of the We-Vibe, so it won’t be pressing as firmly against the g spot.
The other possibility is that the vaginal muscles are not as strong as they could be, and the We-Vibe itself is slipping down to nestle against the penis.
To determine if it’s to do with penis and/or vagina shape, try using a wider dildo for penetration whilst using the We-Vibe. This can be experimented with solo to figure out what works for you, or your partner can still be involved in this by controlling the movement of the dildo.
For the vaginal muscles – and this is recommended regardless – start using SmartBalls to strengthen your pelvic floor. This will give you better control over clenching and releasing your muscles, and a better ability to hold the vibrator in place.
Friction:
Using a condom on the penis may also help, as this provides a smoother entry – it’s possible that friction of the penis against the We-Vibe is not helping things along!
Positions:
Another great resource is the book Ride ‘Em Cowgirl - this covers a variety of different positions you can use during lovemaking. Trying different positions is recommended with any couples toy, to ensure that you find the position that gives the most pleasure for both of you.
Best of luck!
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My wife and I have great sex. We take plenty of time, first with me just stroking her while rubbing a foot at a time. After half an hour or so she is totally relaxed and we move to two hands stimulating her, which eventually brings her to multiple climaxes enhanced by penetration by a finger on her G-Spot while rubbing her clit with my other hand. I then slide inside and she comes again with me. We love this routine because it is so pleasurable for both of us. I’d like to try the WeVibe because my wrists do endure a lot of strain, but I wonder if the WeVibe vibrations may be too intense or strange for her. she loves it gentle. Are the gentle range of vibrations very gentle? Thanks
Hi John,
There is a great range of vibrations and pulsations with the We-Vibe – and at the gentle end they are very gentle indeed. I recommend, if you live near one of our stores, that you both come in and check out one of our demos, so you can feel the variation in speed and strength for yourselves.
Cheers,
Dee